Well, for me that right there was the problem. I didn't think I was being unrealistic.
The first time I bent the front, I admit, tire pressure may have been an issue @ 20ish PSI. But it definately was not the second time where I also bent a flat spot into the rear rim. I expected the suspension to be able to cope with the bike's weight, and I think that is the root problem. Consequently I no longer rail up roads with imbedded rocks and instead play dodge the tiny-ass-barely-sticking-out-at-all boulder game. We'll see if the new rims and suspension combo can mitigate the damage enough to go back out and actually ride this bitch above a crawl over rough ground. Call me crazy, but I don't think second gear should be off limits...