Joe, It could be the fitting like yours I can't tell. When I switch on the ignition I can immediately see fuel seep (not spray) out from the middle of the three flange cracks I'm pointing to below. That one looks like it extends a lot further into the plate than the one in Jim's photo.
I have disconnected the QD a few times when removing the tank but I have never put a wrench on the fitting.
If I get no joy from BMW I'll attempt a similar repair. Is Yamabond the best stuff to use?