Think of the valve as, well, a valve or perhaps a door. Open is open, closed is closed.
Opens into combustion chamber. Closes at (in) the head.
Take a length of coat hanger, or stiff wire & insert into the spark plug hole; as the piston rise in the bore it will push the wire ahead of it. When it stops pushing, this is TDC for that particular cylinder.
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