Originally Posted by AntiHero
...The criticism I have—and the criticism everyone in society has—is when the external image projected does not match who the person really is...
The rest of your post is, as always, very well said. I'm going to quibble on this one point, just because [g].
There's a subtle but important difference between someone who has fooled himself (and thinks he's fooled us) by adopting an outer layer that is not in any way backed up by his inner abilities, and someone who consciously puts on that layer in jest, in hopes of achieving what he knows he doesn't or can't have, or to inspire observers to feel those same emotions.
It's the difference between a poseur asshat in race leathers who can't corner, and a full-of-life jester at Mardi Gras.
In other words, it's not the mismatch that offends. As with so many things, it's all about attitude.