V-Strom: DL1000 as te 650 would be loaded down a bit too much for an EVERY DAY 2 UP ride. Sure the 650 can handle it, but the 1000 can handle it better (IMHO).
800GS, expensive when compared to others, but a great bike. Limited by Canbus (I hate computers on my bike). I just think the Strom is better on the wallet and your gonna get a great ride.
Sure the DL1000 is heavier, but it won't shrink your wallet as much, and it is comparable to the 1200GS in weight, which many have not had big problems with. I think the DL is 490 lbs (not sure), which is about 100 lbs more than the 800GS, but it doesn't sound like your gonna do 90% dirt riding or even 2% EXTREME dirt riding; gravel roads, NO PROBLEM.