|03-27-2014, 02:08 PM||#1|
Joined: Mar 2014
Thinking about getting out of riding
I'm 35 years old, live in girlfriend, no kids. I started riding when I was 32 years old, and have owned seven bikes and put on about 60,000 miles.
One month ago I was involved in a collision, and was hospitalized for a night with a few broken bones and a concussion. That was the extent of my injuries, other than soreness. My motorcycle was totalled.
Now that I'm healed, I'm trying to figure out whether I should give up riding, or go out and buy a replacement bike. I'd like to continue riding, but the risks are extreme, obviously. I'm pondering so much, like I could go out walking and get hurt just as badly. Or get in a car accident and be injured. So I realize it's all a balance.
I'm sure that I am far from the only person who has debated this decision. If anyone cares to share their thoughts, I'm sure they'd be helpful for me to hear.
|03-27-2014, 02:56 PM||#2|
Joined: May 2009
Location: s.e. mass
I'm the same age, married, one kid, house, career, but been at it since I was 4. As I get older, the offs seem to hurt more, most definitely take longer to heal, and in the end cost more $ with repairs and down time.
I say use this opportunity for a couple things: buy THE bike you want. Get the best gear you can afford to help minimize injuries from another off, and invest in training. Whether it be an arc, lee parks school, or a novice group td, the education you get from any will go a long way towards instinctually doing the right things in bad situations.
If riding is in your blood, you won't be happy for long if you decide to give it up. If it's just another hobby you could walk away from, then by all means, because nothing can be as cathartic as cutting your ties.
But IF you're going to get back on the horse, take this opportunity to do it as smart(ly?) as possible.
|03-27-2014, 03:11 PM||#3|
Wow, that broke easy
Joined: Jun 2008
Location: US, SE PA
|03-27-2014, 03:25 PM||#4|
Joined: Nov 2011
Location: San Diego
|03-27-2014, 03:32 PM||#5|
Joined: Nov 2007
Location: West central Fl.
Having been there done that. I know it's a tough choice. For some it's an easy choice.
I wrecked on July 3rd 2011. I swore I would never ride again. This was NOT my first get off. But this time it was 4 days in the hospital and over 3 months out of work. Followed by over a year to get my strength almost back.
I've gone back to riding. I tried different bikes. I try to ride slower. I do not have the same love for riding. I find now when I ride. Which is not often. I keep thinking about what if I do have another wreck. Will I be able to support my family. Will I be able to walk. I have a rod and some screws in my leg. And have been told next time the bone won't break, it'll shatter. That means they will have to amputate it.
Long story short. I still ride not often. Not as long. I tend to ride alone. Sometimes I enjoy it sometimes I don't.
Good luck with your choice. I still can't commit yes or no yet.
If it's in your blood you will have a tough time staying away form riding and all the great friends you've made thru riding.
|03-27-2014, 04:01 PM||#6|
Joined: Jun 2011
Manray screwed with this post 03-27-2014 at 04:51 PM
|03-27-2014, 04:10 PM||#7|
Joined: Feb 2010
Been riding 44 out of my 51 years...
Below is a small snippet of a conversation I had with a friend after my second brain tumor operation.
> Yep...Speach and typing are now a part of my life again.
Excellent news! Eric and were both pretty scared.
> Haven't had any
> seizures in 5 days and feel like I will be back doing everything ASAP.
Is that what the doctors say? I mean, is everything ok now? Please?
> Can't wait to get back on either the Goldwing or KTM so I can feel normal
"Normal" isn't the first word that comes to mind when I think of you,
Craig (or your brother, for that matter...) but, hey, whatever...
> Laying around is not part of a dirtriders nature (as you know very
> well) Sometimes I feel like I am taking advantage of the whole
What?? You gotta be freakin' kidding me?! I'd have to say you've
earned it, buddy.
Now, if you wanted to take some photos of the 9 extra staples and
distribute them to your friends that are into that kinda thing (like,
say, me, for instance...) in order to garner a little sympathy, well,
who am I to argue?
> but then I come to the realization that I have had my head
> opened up twice in 2 weeks and am on some pretty strong drugs and anything I
> ask is done by the loving family that I have.
Yeah! Now *that* is something to take advantage of, for sure
Please thank Lisa again for keeping us all informed of your situation.
She must be going out of her mind. I can't imagine being in her
> I will never take any day
> for granted ever again.
One of the worst things I've ever endured was the nightmare of a brain
tumor in a very good friend when he was only 27. While the experience
was awful for everyone concerned, it greatly influenced how I live my
life, for sure. I desperately wanted something positive to come out of
it, so long ago I decided to treat it as a gift that Gary gave to me
so that I could get the most out of my life. There's a reason I don't
waste too much time making my house look like a spread in Sunset
Magazine. There's a reason I don't waste my time hanging out with
people I don't really like. There's a reason I won't quit riding my
streetbike, even though I know it could potentially lead to my
untimely demise. There's a reason I don't freak out about saving every
penny I earn for retirement. There's a reason I don't put off stuff I
really want to do. There's a reason I've bought 4 new motorcycles
since we bought this house instead of replacing the linoleum in my
kitchen. Each and every day is a gift for all of us, and I intend to
squeeze every last drop of joy out of each and every one I've been
given. It works for me
Sorry to run off on a rant, there, but this is obviously a subject
that is near and dear to my heart.
I am so glad to know you're going to be OK, Craig. I Really am.
Be well, buddy.
If you want to quit riding it is up to you....but I like most of the people on this board don't give in to life.
P.S. Do not let anyone force you into anything because you will return to doing what you want and they will be more disappointed with you then than if you had told them no in the first place.
'09 990 ADV
|03-27-2014, 04:28 PM||#8|
Joined: Oct 2010
I don't think you will find anyone on this site that can honestly say they have not thought about the same things you are.
You think about it if you have a close call, an accident or if someone close to you gets injured or killed while riding.
The only one who can make this decision is you.
If you want to ride, you won't be happy if you're not.
|03-27-2014, 04:36 PM||#9|
Joined: Sep 2011
Keep your motorcycle licence. Don't drop that.
Then next month/year/decade should you decide to get a bike again, you're legal to ride it.
Nothing wrong with deciding you don't want to ride any more, or at least right now. There are times to not ride. Many consider snowy winter days a valid reason not to ride for example. For you, it might simply be right now isn't the time to ride.
Used bikes are there by the dozen, and they will be there later. No need to rush.
BUT, the old saw about getting back on the horse really is true. If you've got a friend who will let you putter around out in a field or something, I'd suggest doing it and going for a ride. If you still don't want to ride, you'll know it. Otherwise, you might find yourself getting re-bit by the bug. Or at least nibbled by it.
|03-27-2014, 04:41 PM||#10|
Joined: Sep 2010
Location: Southern New Jersey
If you can think that way, then give it up.
I have no choice, I must ride.
Been riding for 40 + years, getting to be in rough shape now, but look forward to every ride, dirt or street, long or short, solo or 2 up with my wife.
Riding takes its toll, dirt riding for me, but some guys like to crash on the street as well.
Get out while you can.
|03-27-2014, 04:45 PM||#11|
Joined: Jun 2010
could be you just need a little time away.if its in youre blood youll be back on 2 wheels.ive had 13 bikes in about 250K miles and 44 years.i gotta say I live to ride.
1997 triumph trophy 1200
|03-27-2014, 05:43 PM||#12|
Joined: Jul 2012
Location: Somewhere between snowmobiles and motorcycles
Buy a trials bike and relish in going slow. One would get the needed two wheel fix without having to mix with the cars. After reading the OP, I thought this would be my course of action. ds
|03-27-2014, 09:30 PM||#13|
Joined: May 2012
Location: Temecula CA
It doesn't sound like you're anywhere near ready to be making a decision yet. You've had a very scary event, you're still working on just getting your mind wrapped around that, its only been 1 month. Give it time. Enjoy being with your girlfriend. Enjoy life, heal up. As time goes by you'll figure out whether you want to ride again. Could be soon or could be years down the road, don't rush yourself.
In your helmet, no one can hear you scream.
Old(ish) Chick on a Bike
V-Strom 650 Adventure "Maxwell"
DR-Z400s "Little Donkey2"
|03-27-2014, 09:41 PM||#14|
Some call me...Tim?
Joined: Aug 2013
Location: Temecula, CA
I was away from all bikes for 7 years before I decided I missed it too much. At the risk of sounding lame, follow what your heart tells you to do.
'01 plated WR250F | '03 plated KTM 565 | '12 990ADV
|03-27-2014, 09:50 PM||#15|
Joined: Jul 2012
Location: North Houston
20,000 miles a year is quite a lot of riding - that's more than 50 miles a day on average. Either you're going quite fast and/or you're spending a lot of time in the saddle - both of which increase your exposure to catastrophe.
Rather than wondering whether you should quit entirely, maybe you should think more about what role motorcycling can play in your life, in terms of how often and how much you ride. Maybe instead of riding 50 miles a day, you can take your car on the more mundane commute/errand-style trips and save your moto for the weekend fun, one or two hundred miles a week. You don't get to ride as much but the remaining rides are that much more special. It's a personal decision and the best person to make it is you, so everything I say should be taken with a grain of salt! But I think there's a lot more to this choice than just "ride" or "don't ride".
(I say all this as a guy who has only had time to ride about 3,000mi/year for the last few years - sure I'm not "hardcore ADV" but I still have fun and it fits my lifestyle)
2014 690 Enduro R
|Thread Tools||Search this Thread|